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21 March 2019

Coping with Change

I have always known when I am approaching a crossroads in my life.

I think that many people are unaware that vast change is about to occur in their lives, and I believe that this often actually makes it easier to deal with, however, I've always been so in tune with my myself, that I can sense it in the waters, I can feel it in my gut, and I find it terrifying.

It's peculiar how I find it so empowering to embrace some forms of change. I'm naturally a very restless person, I always want more and I'm never satisfied with what I do have, which is both a blessing and a curse. If you gave me a few months rent and told me to pack my bags and move to Paris for a year, I would be on a flight quicker than you could tell me to go. I can completely and entirely embrace short bursts of change, but I need the stability of my everyday life to fall back on.

Yet, I find permanent change much more difficult to stomach. I am nearly nineteen years old, and the thought of not living under the same roof as my parents absolutely terrifies me. This isn't because I'm not independent, I've always been fiercely independent, but because they're like my best friends. Their existence is completely parallel to mine, and I know that once this change occurs, I will never live in the same way again, and then one day they will no longer be around anymore.

I suppose I find it hard to let go. I've always joked with my mama that my childhood has been far too idyllic, and that's why I find change difficult, but in reality, it's because the future petrifies me. I crave the quietude and comfort of my childhood, and I want to feel that way for as long as I possibly can, even if that makes me unconventional. Therefore, I have come to the conclusion that I am probably going to have my bedroom in my childhood home for as long as they let me.

However, I think it is even harder to let go and move forward when we have no idea what we're letting go and moving forward to.

Everything that I always planned for, and thought I wanted has changed. I've changed. I look back on my life, the dreams and aspirations, that I had a year ago, and I don't recognise myself. It is like I am staring straight into the soul of another human being, not myself, therefore I know that this past year has been one of incredible growth, but also incredible disruption. My entire sense of identity has been disrupted, and when I try to explain this to people I can almost see their eyes roll, and this is partly why I think that I am simply more in tune with myself than most, but the fact that most people don't seem to understand how I feel simply makes me feel that I am slowly going crazy.

It is ironic how this intrinsic change is inevitable, as our experiences shape us, yet changing our environment and how our life moves is a difficult, conscious decision.

I crave answers. My entire being wants some omnipotent force to tell me what I need to do, what is going to get me where I want to be. I can see the end result, but I can't see the path. I know that this isn't the way that life works, I know that we only get clarity when we look backwards, but this doesn't help me in making these huge life decisions.

All I know is that I don't want people to look back at my life as it being conventional and the same as everyone else's, I want my journey to be different, I want my life to matter. I need the disruption and I need the change, I just don't yet know how to embrace it, but I need to learn quickly.

23 January 2019

How To Shop More Consciously and Sustainably

The Background


I have to admit, during my mid-teens, my buying habits were excessive and wasteful. I went through a phase that I'd imagine that many image-conscious young people go through, whereby my style changed weekly and my favourite shops monthly. I'd reached a point where my entire bedroom was built around the excessive amount of clothes that I owned, in fact, I couldn't even fit all of the clothes in my wardrobe hanging up, instead I had two huge boxes stuffed with seasonal pieces at the bottom of my wardrobe, alongside hanging items and six overfilled drawers. In reality, however, I probably only wore 10% of the clothing that I owned.

Last year, it reached a point where I decided that enough was enough, I was sick of having so much clothing that was poor quality and was talking up all of my space. I also did some further research into the effects of fast fashion, both on those who make the garments and the environment, and needless to say, I was absolutely disgusted and couldn't believe that I had participated in essentially, slavery.

It would be my dream to able to only buy ethically made clothes, and where this is possible I do try to do so, but in reality, this is really difficult on both a student's budget. I have also found it really difficult to figure out exactly which brands are ethical, as the information tends to be well hidden and the information on the internet tends to be contradictory.

Therefore, I decided that, for the phase of my life that I am in now, I would instead purchase clothing consciously, being completely aware of where it was from and how it was made, I try to avoid brands that I know purchase clothes from factories with terrible worker's conditions, although sometimes I have found that I have done so unknowingly, as I said, much of the information online is contradictory. To ease my conscience, I, therefore, began donating some money to the charity 'Labour Behind the Label' who campaign for garment workers' rights, which I urge you all to research. I think that it is important to be aware of where your clothes come from and do small acts to try and make it better for these workers.

From an environmental standpoint, however, buying less is so much better for our planet. In 2015 there were 1.2 billion tonnes of carbon emissions produced by the global fashion industry, and in the UK 235 million items of clothing were sent to the landfill last year. Therefore, it is true that the addictive means of fast fashion are detrimentally damaging the environment, and unlike clothing, we can't buy a new planet once it is worn out.

I do think that the high street is not completely avoidable, as unfortunately, the system will need to change first. However, I do believe that by shopping more consciously and ultimately buying less, we are able to begin to play our part in this movement.

Reasons for Shopping Consciously



1. Helping the environment.


2. Decreasing patronage to brands that purchase from factories with poor labour conditions.

3. Saving money- yes! I have found that by buying less, even though I'm spending more money when I do purchase a piece, I'm actually saving money in the long run.

4. Having beautiful, timeless, perfectly fitting pieces that will last you years, and never feeling like you don't have anything to wear again.

5. Bringing the meaning back into shopping, it is much more satisfying to buy one item that you absolutely love and know that you will wear forever than to buy the whole of Primark and discard it a few months later. 

What is conscious shopping?


By conscious shopping, I mean being emotionally present for everything that you purchase, and really putting the thought and energy into any piece that you buy. I began this by cutting down on the amount of online shopping that I was doing- which was just excessive and unneeded. Instead, I'll order or purchase one item, I'll make sure that it fits like a dream (as the amount of ill-fitting clothing that I'd purchased and kept was insane) and that it is amazing quality, the style is classic and it is something that I know I will treasure.

My Favourite Brands


1) People Tree
2) & Other Stories
3) Mango
4) Free People
5) Selected Femme

How to Begin



In true Marie Kondo style, you need to begin by decluttering the clothing that you already own. The most important part is to be ruthless- if you don't like it, it doesn't fit or you don't wear it, then get rid of it! It's also vital not to dispose of anything in the rubbish bin- because that's when it ends up in a landfill! Instead, donate everything to a charity shop, you would be shocked at how much they actually keep, and if something is beyond wear, they will generally dispose of it through the correct means of recycling.

You may need to do this multiple times to really cut down on your clothing, and generally, the more regularly that you go through your items, the more ruthless you will be- don't keep things "just in case".
Then, you need to decrease how often you shop. If you tend to buy new things every week, then try and make it every two weeks, if it every month then try and make it every other month. Ideally, you will be able to get to a point whereby you are able to simply buy a piece to either replace something that has worn out or at the beginning of a new season. I really do believe that minimalism is key for timeless fashion.

When you do buy a new piece, really think in depth about it.
You should ask yourself the following questions:


  • Why do I want it? (if it is just because you want to buy something, then do not purchase- you shouldn't shop to fill a void!)
  • Is it good quality and does it fit as I would like it to?
  • Is it a staple or is the style timeless? 
  • Where was it made and is there a more sustainable alternative?
  • Do I really need it?


If you're unsure, then walk away, if you're still thinking about it a week later, then go back and buy it, but the chances are that you won't be, it was most likely just a momentary thing. Remember, the focus is on quality, not quantity.

Lastly, here is my list of timeless pieces that will help to shape your wardrobe into a capsule wardrobe for the years to come.

Timeless Classics and Staple Pieces for Winter



1. Blazer
2. (Faux) Leather Jacket
3. (Formal) Wool Coat
4. Loafers
5. Chelsea Boots
6. Straight Leg Jeans
7. Denim Skirt
8. Turtle Neck Jumper
9. Plain T-Shirts
10. High Neck Long-Sleeved T-Shirts

Note: I would purchase most of these items in black, as that truly is a timeless colour and goes with everything, but equally any neutral is perfect, and it is good to have a variety of neutrals in one outfit.


I hope that you have found this blog post helpful, and I truly do believe that if we all begin to shop more consciously, we can help to shape a fashion industry which cares more about other people and our planet, as it is all of our responsibility.

10 January 2019

Another New Year

I have to admit, I've been intending on writing this post for the last two weeks, but a general lack of motivation and inspiration has plagued me for some time. I absolutely adore this blog, I find writing extremely cathartic. However, I am at a point in my life where I am struggling with creativity. I don't live in London or Paris, I don't have a fancy camera or even the opportunity for beautiful photographs, and despite the fact that I have plenty of ideas, I don't have the ability or knowledge to execute them in the way that I want.

I have felt as though I am in a nonchalant phase of life, and I've been this way for some time, where I am quite simply floating. My day to day life lacks excitement, I'm in the process of learning to drive, which is frustrating in itself as I crave the independence of being able to easily get places without having to plan hours in advance to use the dire public transport of my area. All of my friends and my boyfriend now live away at University, and despite the fact that I seem them during holiday time, during term time I feel myself drowning in melancholic loneliness that I don't seem able to pull myself out of.

Put plainly, I'm stuck in a rut.

It feels frustrating as I'm young, I should be in the prime of my life, having fun and making memories, whereas in reality I spend most days, sat at home on my own, trying to revise A-Level content that I am frankly done with.
Having to resit the year seemed like quite a fun proposition back in September, when I had months to do other things, but now that January has come around and I have to get back to reality it is incredibly difficult and heartwrenching to face.

I wish that I was able to come to you with some incredibly motivating post about the new year, my goals, a fresh start, but the reality is that my life has stalled, and as of yet I haven't learnt how to get the engine back running again.

If any of you are feeling this way too, then please know that you're not alone. Social media can be incredible and inspiring, but it can also be toxic and draining when your life doesn't resemble that that society makes you feel as though it should.

The truth is that we're all on our own journeys, and we need to learn to embrace that rather than take any slowing as a fault or failure on our part.

I hope that all of you make 2019 your year, but if it ends up not being as you expected, I also hope that you don't feel guilty, life isn't perfectly mapped out, it is a rollercoaster of experience and emotion, and all that any of us can do is try.

1 September 2018

Some Thoughts for the New Academic Year

To me, September has always been the month of new beginnings. Ironically, in both of our versions of 'new beginnings', namely September and January, nature doesn't actually mirror this human feeling of change.
"My September has always symbolised change."

In academic terms, however, September is the perfect month for new beginnings, and for myself, this is often more significant than the official New Years. My September has always symbolised change, and for those few years of high school during which I completely fell out of love with the education system, it symbolised a new season of 'trying harder'.

Yet, it has taken me a couple of years, since I left high school, to realise that it is completely okay if your version of learning doesn't match up with that of the education system. Since I have been a child, I have always been a voracious reader, and around the age of ten, I was reading works way beyond that of my 'age range'. This wasn't out of some desire to conform, but instead out of a real passion for literary exploration and the desire to mentally push myself beyond the boundaries. However, by the time I was around fifteen, I was scraping my way through GCSE English and realistically touched about two books within the entire year. I am extremely grateful that, thankfully, this flunk didn't last long, as I definitely lost touch with a part of myself during this time, however, unfortunately for many this flunk doesn't pass until it's too late.

Of course, I'm not trying to suggest that everyone falls out of love with reading, some never will fall in love with it in the first place and for others, it will never leave. Whatever your intellectual curiosity is, I urge you to feed it, not just in a way that conforms with educational standards, but in a way which fuels your soul. I know that it can feel like grades are more important than anything else and yes, it is extremely important to try hard to reach your educational potential, but in reality, there are also so many more important lessons to learn in this life.

Therefore, I beg of you, instead of using this September as the signifier for another year of more educational pressure, instead of balance this with activities that you love and help you to grow. Try and create a passion for your life, rather than just living within the robotic nature of the society that we live in, and ultimately, know that you are enough, in whatever shape or size you come in. Our society will try and label us, but the only label that can truly guide us is the one that we can create for ourselves.

"Individuality is freedom lived." John Dos Passos

30 June 2018

Summer ASOS Purchases

I thought that I'd write a quick post to share some ASOS pieces that I have purchased recently. Not only are we currently experiencing a heatwave in the UK, but in three weeks I go on holiday to Italy. Therefore, recently I have been on the hunt to find some classic summer pieces to integrate into my wardrobe, and of course, my first port of call was ASOS. I'm sure many of these items will also be featured in some outfit posts once I am in Italy, but I am sure many of you will currently be also hunting for some summer items, so hopefully, this post will give you some inspiration.







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